In trying to get back to my readers and other bloggers, I’ve gotten a bit behind schedule in my response posts. So many posts + so many long work hours = so many drafts! Well, despite the fact that I still write everything here using my phone, I’m going to get better at responding and posting…gonna try for a weekly Sunday post again. First up, a quick rundown of various things I hold opinions on, as I promised a while ago;
-Friendships must be equal, or as close as humanly possible. I don’t care if it’s between two guys, two girls, or opposite sex friends…no one deserves to be taken advantage of.
-Romantic relationships are nice, and I’m always happy for those who have pleasant/loving ones…but they aren’t a prerequisite for being happy or fulfilled. No one has to date, get married, fall in love, or have children just because society says to. Going your own way is a viable option, and one that I follow myself.
That being said, if you’ve found someone to truly love who also loves you back? Congrats!
-I’m cool with homosexual marriage, the same as I’m cool with heterosexual marriage. Hey, neither one directly affects me, and I think two consenting adults should be able to legally wed the person of their choice. Simple as that, really.
-None of this “some are more equal than others” shite. Women, men, abled, disabled, all colors, hair types, ethnicities, ages, what-have-you…all are deserving of basic respect and decency. Just make sure you remember to show this to others, too. None of us are so special that you can demand respect and not give any. Entitlement doesn’t fly with me.
-Double standards suck. This goes for ones that are helpful *and* hurtful. I don’t use them in my interactions with others, and it annoys me to no end when others do. Laws that support or condone double standards are in the wrong, and should be changed so that they’re fair.
-I am one of those people who honestly believes that most non-human animals are worthy of just as much respect as us humans. As such, I have not eaten the flesh of any animals (yes, this includes fish/seafood) for 16 years now. I understand that the majority of humans are omnivores, and have never said anything against eating meat even though it’s not for me. But factory farming and/or the willful abuse and neglect of our “lesser” cousins is something that needs to stop.
-I am Wiccan, and have been since I was 13 or so. It wasn’t a cry for attention then, and it isn’t one now. I’m 30…I won’t be “growing out of” my spiritual beliefs any time soon.
-I believe there is a Goddess and a God. A Lady and a Lord, if you will, who are known by many names. They embody the pure masculine and feminine (not the inaccurate stereotypes), and are to be worshipped and praised as our Creators by anyone who believes. But if you don’t, there’s no worries about Hell (or Heaven, for that matter). You’ll simply be reincarnated, and be able to live through yet another lifetime.
-Speaking of reincarnation, I believe that our immortal souls go through many different lives to learn all they can. You may be a human male in this life, and a human female in the next one. Or you may be a fox, chameleon, stork, or tiger…It all depends on what you need to experience in your upcoming life.
-I believe in evolution and the geographical record, as well as radiometric and carbon dating. Just because science can explain *how* the Lord and Lady made everything doesn’t take away from the terrible beauty that is our world.
-The physical and spiritual world are of equal importance. Nature is not fallen, our bodies aren’t inherently sinful, and each person is their own salvation through their deeds. I’m not entirely sure about the Rule of Three, but karma *will* catch up to you eventually.
-Due to the Goddess and God being equal partners, mortal men and women are born spiritually/morally equal as well. The man is not the “head of the household” simply because he is male. The woman does not “owe obedience” simply because she is female. At the same time, women aren’t “purer” than men, or less likely to be “sinful”. Neither sex is inherently superior or inferior…one is not born to be a follower, same as one is not born to be a leader. One’s life experiences may lead to one having this type of personality, but it is not determined by one’s genitals.
-Sex is between two or more consenting adults (or similar aged teens). Both parties must be fully conscious and aware of their actions for true consent to occur. Using drugs, alcohol or intimidation to have any type of intercourse with someone else is wrong to do, regardless of your sex or the sex of the potential partner. If you invite a guy/girl up to your room, and they are having trouble walking/talking due to inebriation…they aren’t capable of giving consent.
-Consenting sex between partners is fine, no matter what form it takes. BDSM, roleplaying, water play, mutual masturbation, use of toys, or just plain “vanilla” sex is all valid and okay. So long as no partner is actually harmed and consent is fully given, people should be allowed to engage in whatever sexual activities they enjoy.
-We all have a responsibility to be truthful and safe with our partners. When men and women fake their orgasms it is a type of lie, and should never happen. You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest about this. Likewise, safe sex should always be a factor, especially if you engage in casual sex. Proper use of condoms, oral sex dams, and birth control pills/injections can help avoid STDs and pregnancy.
-Sex is an amazing, wonderful, delicious activity. It is the complete acceptance of your partner in their most vulnerable state, and vice versa. Sex is a bonding experience like no other, and should be treasured as such. Sex is sacred, and it saddens me to see how carelessly American culture treats it.
-Not enough people are kind to one another just to be kind. A smile to a stranger, taking time to help an older man with his groceries, holding the door for a harried looking woman, listening to a young man’s problems while you share a bus ride…These actions take little time from your day, but may make all the difference to the person you do them for.
-If someone is in need, help them as best you can. Don’t just walk away from someone who falls or gets hurt. Involve emergency services if necessary. We all have a basic responsibility to assist our fellow beings, whether they are human or not. After all, you’d want someone to stop and help you, right?
-Pay it forward. Next time you have extra money, donate it to a good cause. I personally can’t wait til I’m debt free in 2 years…there are so many honest charities I want to give to! If you can’t give money, consider giving time. I volunteer at my local food pantry during the winter, and the local ASPCA all year long. It feels wonderful knowing that your actions are making someone else’s life that much better.
-Be friendly/happy. Obviously if you are having a truly bad day, don’t lie about how you’re feeling. But would it kill people to return a smile or ask how someone is? Going through your day with a scowl, or snapping at random people you meet is rather immature and makes you look bad, besides. Isn’t it better to make others feel happier being around you?
-Always look on the bright side of life (thank you, Life of Brian!). Even if you are having a bad day, know that it *will* get better. Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you worked for, the other kids at school stole your books again, you had an argument with your spouse, or something similar. That’s only what happened today…tomorrow is coming up, and if you’re around to see it? Well the possibilities are nearly endless!
-If you need help, don’t be ashamed for asking for it. Most of my advice is about helping others, because I personally have a good life right now, and can do that. However, if you are one of those people in need…get help! Whether you have PTSD, are in an abusive relationship, have a mental health issue, or anything you can’t handle on your own, you owe it to yourself to get assistance and change your situation. Talk to others, let them know that you need someone to listen or comfort you. Find someone that you can cry around, and who will validate your feelings. Everybody needs some type of help during their lifetime. Asking for it doesn’t make you weak…it makes you normal.
That’s it from me, for now. As always, please be polite to other commenters and feel free to ask questions or give feedback. Should you wish to talk privately, simply use my contact page. Oh, and remember that this is how *I* feel about these topics…they are *my* opinions. If you have a different one, that’s fine with me, so long as it doesn’t harm others or you get irrationally angry when others don’t feel as you do.
Thanks for reading!