Very quick post here, everyone. Almost more of an impromptu “survey” really.
So, over on AVfM there’s a new article up about why men give away sex all the time, even to women who don’t do very much to show they can actually bring anything besides their looks to the table.
The language used to write said article is more…coarse…than anything I’d say myself, but I get the underlying point: Namely, that male sexuality is easier to obtain than female sexuality. And though this is an unfair state of affairs that I plan on covering in a later post (because male sexuality is beautiful and should be cherished too), but for this one I want to focus on a certain segment. Warning for some strong language!
“This is something that I’ve never understood about men. If women want to ride my cock, they gotta pay. I’m the one doing all the work in bed. It’s my sweat all over her and the sheets. It’s her fucking orgasm and foreplay that is a job. Yet, men give away cock like it’s worthless. Dudes, get a fucking clue and stop giving it away! “
Now, perhaps I’m in the minority here, but in my opinion one partner should not be doing all the work. Otherwise, why even go out and find a partner? Just save yourself the time and money, stay home, and masturbate. Use a toy if you crave new sensations. I believe if you’re doing sex the right way everyone involved should be in charge of telling the other(s) what works for them, taking responsibility for their own orgasms, communicating openly, and just having fun.
That, and I’m confused why the author speaks in a somewhat derogatory manner on the subject of foreplay, and why he’s under the impression that only women like/need it. In my limited experience, men love to be worshiped just as much, if not more than, women. The number of times I’ve been completely ready to go…but my lover has slowed me down/reminded me to take my time…is probably about 50-60% of our encounters. Again, I only have my one partner to extrapolate from, but surely he’s not that different than other guys?
I don’t know, it is just is odd to me, this type of opinion about foreplay, and the idea of having sex with a partner who’s not even going to *try* to satisfy you. What do my readers think, or what of your own experiences are you comfortable sharing in regards to partners who take more than they give?