In going over the data I have for MGTOWs that I’ve gotten so far, a pattern has begun to emerge. Namely, that a significant number of men going their own way who are single do not necessarily wish to be…in other words, they would like to be in a committed relationship but do not feel that the current divorce/alimony/custody laws are sufficiently fair (read: not fair at all) to warrant such a gamble. Hence, we of the Western world** have a subset of men who, under more equal circumstances, would actually prefer to be in loving marriages and LTRs with women. Of course, other MGTOWs are perfectly happy being bachelors and wouldn’t be interested in marriage or LTRs even with optimal conditions.
Which got me wondering: What side are single women on? Do the majority of women still desire marriage, or are we seeing a new wave of “independent women” who have decided that it’s better to remain single for all their lives?
According to a 2013 Gallup poll, the majority of Americans still want to get married at some point in their lives, with only 5% of us saying “no thanks” to the idea altogether. Various reasons for not currently being married included financial worries, not finding the right person, still attending college or school, and other issues that made responders hesitant to wed immediately. Unfortunately, the results were not broken up according to sex, so it’s impossible to tell what men said vs what women said.
But it is worth noting that a 2010 Pew Research survey found that;
“Men and women’s attitudes about marrying for the first time are not different among young adults. But among never-married adults ages 30 to 50, men (27%) are more likely than women (8%) to say they do not want to marry.”
If this data is to be believed, then it appears that not only do most Americans want marriage in their lives, but women want it a significant amount more than men. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find any trends or studies in this area, so I’m unsure of how this has changed in the past…if at all. Perhaps women have always wanted marriage more than men, even when there is no true reason for them to need it anymore.
So here’s my questions for female readers:
1. Are you single? If so, is it a conscious decision to be such?
2. Were you ever married? If so, are you a widow or divorcee?
3. Do you want to get married/remarried?
4. How old are you? If you were previously married, how old were you at the time of your wedding?
5. If you want marriage or are already married, why? If you don’t want marriage, why not?
6. For those who currently are, or used to be married, would you do it again?
7. Any other information you wish to impart, or clarifications of your answers.
My readers already know my stance on singlehood and marriage…I’m in the 5% of Americans who don’t want a “ball and chain”. Now I want to know what other women want and why. Let’s see how your answers compare to my MGTOW survey. Perhaps there’s some common ground to be found?
**Japan may also be included in this due to the recent rise of “herbivore men”, but I’m not 100% sure of their reasons for shunning relations with women, so will not speak of cultural issues I’m not familiar with. Should any readers have better information, feel free to post in the comments.