So the ultra hip and equally awesome MrMary has yet another gem of a post up today about how a prom was ruined for a young girl and her date.
The reasons for her being asked to leave the dance was supposedly due to adult male chaperones having impure thoughts about her. This is despite the fact it was a fairly conservative dress that passed the muster of the other Christian chaperones and abided by all their requirements for appropriate dress codes. However, it then comes out that she is a white girl and her date is black.
As this event happened in the south of America, I agree with MrMary’s assertion that perhaps race had more to do with it than the old white men watching the prom would like to admit. Did the fathers present actually have qualms about her dress? It’s possible…the dance was one for homeschooled Southern Christians, after all, and some of them can be almost irrationally fearful of any “impure thoughts”. But given what I’ve personally seen and been told about some of our states, I’m willing to bet money that the entire story is far more insidious. I very much suggest you go read MrMary’s original post here:
For anyone who says that racism isn’t an issue in America anymore, they obviously haven’t spoken to a black person from the South. Yes, the North has it’s share of moronic racist scum too, but it usually seems they are less overt about it…not that this is better by any means, but at least the average Joe doesn’t smack you in the face with it.
Interesting fact: I was at Toyfair earlier this year (a game/toy convention for retailers held at the javitts center), and one of the guys I met while listening to a seller’s spiel was a cool black guy from South Carolina. We hung out for a bit, just walking around talking, looking at the wares, and he abruptly says “you know, it’s so much easier being black up here in NY”. Intrigued, I asked him why.
Apparently the rumors about certain parts of the South are true…he is a 28 year old man, but old white people call him “boy” to get his attention. He drives a fairly new blue-ish green car with no dents or scratches, but gets pulled over for innane reasons like driving too straight and never for anything ticketable. When he goes into a store, the employees will not-so-subtly follow him around and ask what he needs in a manner of “get your stuff and leave”. He works at a gaming store (duh) and even has white customers tell his boss that “there’s a black guy snooping around the shelves” when he’s restocking the games. The list goes on.
Oh, and did I mention that more than a third of his neighbors have the confederate flag flying somewhere on their property.
Naturally, I was disgusted and horrified. He had other stories too, very specific ones that leave the average, moral person wondering just how many times you can take the stinking dead fish of racist thought and basically slap someone across the face with it before they justifiably go off on your sorry ass. Yet he said that NYC was treating him so well in comparison that he was literally considering moving up here…after being in NY for a mere 48 hours. I informed him that there’s still racism here, it’s not all happiness and holding hands. There’s still racial profiling, and a host of other issues, especially in the really urban areas.
And then he smiled at me and said “Oh, I’m sure. But I have been looking around as we’re talking and so far nobody has given us dirty looks for walking around with each other. No one has come up to you to ask if you’re alright, or if I’m bothering you. No one has glared at us like we’re lighting a bible on fire. Heck, this morning I was getting a bagel and the cashier thought the white woman standing behind me was with me…and we all laughed about the confusion! My real girlfriend back home is white. I think we would like it up here much better.”
We both had to go meet coworkers at that point, so we said farewell. But even though I’m happy he was having fun and was able to relax in NY, I wrestled with the gross feeling of disgust for the BS he has to go through on a daily basis. When the hell are all my fellow Americans going to finally learn that racism is idiotic and hurtful?
When are we going to stop judging based on skin color and focus on merit?
Are we ever? What do you think?
As always, keep comments within the confines of my policy. And for the love of the Gods people…don’t be so stupid as to deny that racism exists or try to excuse such behavior. I’d hate to ban anyone from commenting here. Thanks.