Are you single? If so, what type of single person are you? No, I don’t mean I want a list of personality traits…you can be an “adventurous” single woman or a “homebody” single man, but that’s not quite what I’m asking.
You see, most sociologists break down singlehood into 4 distinct categories. Over the course of one’s lifetime this category may change (especially if one gets married!) by for the most part people over the age of 25 who haven’t tied the knot can readily pick out their designation. Let’s take a look at what these types of singlehood mean…
Involuntary & Temporarily
Single, but not by choice. This person has no current partner but truly desires one. They are also actively looking for a person to spend their life with, most often within the confines of a marriage. Despite the fact that there are 3 other categories, average Western society usually assumes that a typical unmarried person is both involuntarily single, but also only temporarily so.
Voluntarily & Temporarily
Many budding entrepreneurs, college students, or recently divorced people belong to this group. They are not against the idea of a committed relationship, and even imagine themselves in such a position one day. However, they are focused on either living life for themselves at the moment or are too busy pursuing an education/career opportunity to look for Mr. or Ms. Right. The new term Quirkyalone is a good poster child of being voluntarily single in a temporary dose.
Involuntary & Permanently
This type of single person does want to find a mate and get married, but for some reason their attempts at seeking out love have never reached this point. While a few members of this group dwell on this area of their life and become bitter, many more simply learn to accept that marriage is not part of their destiny. Of course, this doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy other, more casual relationships or good relations with family members. A good number of older Incels are in this category.
Voluntarily & Permanently
Those who inhabit this category are the “eternals”…men and women who have absolutely no interest in married life, and may even take steps to avoid the possibility of getting too deep into any casual relations they do have. It could just be that they relish having the freedom to do whatever they want, whenever they want. Or perhaps they feel certain laws or social expectations are too harmful to engage in a marriage contract. MGTOWs and Single-At-Hearts are usually quite at home with this designation.
By now a seasoned reader knows that I am a V&P, and happily so. But for my single readers, I want to know when you knew you’d be single, what category you currently fall into, and why you are in said category. Also, would you like to change the designation you are in, or are you comfortable with how your life has turned out so far?