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Recent conversations on other blogs have tuned me into a new opinion that I never really considered before: That penises are ugly.
It was not only women who were saying this…men, it seems, also don’t see their members as being particularly nice looking. I was shocked. As someone who looks at their vulva nearly everyday (and thinks it’s quite lovely), it came as a surprise to learn that men suffer from the same issue that so many women do. Namely, that genitals are ugly, or at least not something worth viewing. Why is this, and why are men not being told that their sexual organs are beautiful like women finally are?
There is a cornucopia of female-genital empowerment to choose from. Everything from a wall of plaster cast vulvas, to women being given mirrors to look at themselves, to artwork being displayed openly in certain major museums. I’m happy that American culture is starting to accept that the female sex is a thing of beauty, but as with most improvements there remains a double standard. In this case, the male sex is not being given the same attention, which can and does lead to boys (and adult men) living with poor body image.
I say it is time to stop this. Male genitals are often compared to weapons or spoken of in terms of doing harm, when the truth is the overwhelming majority of men will never even consider hurting their partner, sexually or otherwise. Despite this fact, an erect penis is portrayed as something to be feared or hated, while a flaccid one is to be mocked and condemned. Rather than a symbol of male passion, the penis is made out to be a shameful reminder of male sexual entitlement and entire audiences laugh when grotesque mutilation is done to them. Instead of a totem of virility, testicles are rarely mentioned outside of crude physical humor that involves their harm.
I’d much rather that the testicles be appreciated for the soft feel of the delicate skin, and their deliciously enticing small movements when gently caressed. I wish for penises to be treasured for the vulnerable strength they are composed of, for the feelings a male can receive from purposeful strokes or light twists. I want boys and men to be proud of their sexuality (whatever it’s orientation), and to love it for the fact it is a needful part of the continuation of our species as well as a font of physical, sensual, and even emotional gratification.
Perhaps most of all, I hope that our culture can cease it’s judgment of a man based on his ability to obtain and keep a sexual partner. The worth of a man is not in whether he shares his seed, just as the worth of a woman is not tied to whether she gives birth. It is in the lives we live for ourselves…and whether we stay true to our dreams, better ourselves through experience and trials, and reach our goals.
Sexuality is a large part of most people’s lives, and is a beautiful aspect of Life. Let us treat it as such, and have just as much respect for the sacredness of the male genitals as we do for the female.