Just a quick post about something that happened today.
I was at the grocery store in the self-checkout line. There was a mid-20’s guy in the one before mine who seemed to be limping a bit…turns out he had a post-surgery “boot” on his right foot. He asks the female helper/checker if she can help him carry his bags out to his car since his foot is really bothering him.
What does she do?
Laughs, and says he should be able to as he’s a man. Then says it’s rude for a guy to ask a “lady” to carry things.
My jaw hit the floor. What the hell?
I spoke up. “Sometimes guys need help too, you know.”
He looks at me gratefully, while she just reiterates her moronic words from before. I finish paying for my items, bagged them, and grab 3 of the man’s 4 bags as the cashier sputtered about how she “was sure he could manage”.
“And maybe you can manage to find some compassion for others”, I replied before turning to leave. So I helped the man out, and he couldn’t stop thanking me. I just wished him a happy holiday and speedy recovery.
But seriously, what the hell? Since when is it rude for someone to ask for assistance with anything? This entire experience just left me fuming with anger and frustration at the inherent misandry of our culture…Where is the decency we’re supposed to show to one another, whether male or female? Not where I live apparently. I’ve seen a fair amount of sexism against boys and men, but this was the most blatant episode in a while.
Anyone else ever seen or gone through something like this? How did you handle it?