This post is a request from a regular reader and commenter, who asked for an open forum to talk about the problems, and possible solutions, of what happens when sexual partners have severely mismatched libidos. So, I am asking all my readers to give advice or share stories of their experiences.
Have you had a partner in a committed relationship (married/engaged) who wanted a very different amount of sex than yourself?
Did this impact the relationship as a whole, or only the sexual aspects of it?
Did the partner with the lower sex drive use the promise of increased sexual favors to manipulate you into buying items outside of your budget or doing things you had no desire to do?
Conversely, did the partner with the higher libido consistently push for sex, even when you were clearly sick or actively busy with work/family chores?
What steps did you use to attempt to fix this issue? Did the fixes take, or did the two of you backslide into old routines?
If no attempts at creating sexual harmony were taken, what happened to.the relationship? Did you separate, divorce, stay together, or agree to an “open relationship”?
If you knew then what you know know about this partner, would you have still gotten into a committed relationship with them?
Similar question: Have you ever had any of this happen in a more casual relationship, like FwB or dating?
You are free to add any other information or clarification, but please remember to adhere to my comments policy and have respect for those who take the time to share their experiences.